FRIENDSHIP

Few weeks ago, I pranked a friend(my room mate) that I was pregnant (boredom). At first she suspected it was all a joke but I made the story seem true. When it dawned on her that it wasn’t a joke,she asked lots of questions,she was clearly dissapointed but something felt insanely weird. She was moved with empathy, she automatically turned to a motivational speaker, she provided me with words of encouragement and advice. When a week was gone I had to spill the truth because I felt the prank had been dragged long enough.. Story time is over but this single episode made me understand friendship.

What is friendship?

William Shakespeare got me thinking about the whole concept of friendship with this quote.

Basically, it is widely known that friendship is a relationship of mutual affection between people(state of being friends). But here are Cypher’sthoughts-Friendship is a state of being friends but it’s more than that, it’s developing a deep faith and sense of trust in another individual which connects these individuals mentally and emotionally.

Types of friendship

Being an extrovert,i enjoy any kind of friendly gesture from people but I have basically categorised friendship into five types and here they are:

1. Seasonal friendship:In this friendship,friends lasts only for a specific period of time for a specific purpose. For example, my highschool friends,in highschool i made a lot of friends that I honestly don’t know their whereabouts now but anytime I get to see them,i am definitely up for a chit chat.
2. Pleasurable friendship:Friends in this friendship are always ready to bring pleasure into your life. Any time you are invited to a party and you are asked to bring friends, there are certain kinds of friends that just pop’s into your head. These kinds of friends delight in participating in different activities to keep life interesting. They are so energetic and they always have one fun thing or another up their sleeves. Memories are easily built with these friends.
3. Useful friendship:I refer to friends in this friendship as utility friends, I am friendly with them because they are very useful in certain areas of my life. Have ever had a low battery and need to charge urgently? and the next person on your mind is your next door neighbor(because you’re sure there is always light) or have ever needed extra cash and that guy’s name just finds it’s way into your thoughts?I might be bored to death and I am really in need of interesting movies to see and I know the perfect person to hit up.. lol.You might be friendly with your neighbor because (s) he helps you pack your clothes when it’s about raining. This friendship is precisely because you have given such sense of usefulness to a particular person.
4. Mutual friendship:This is a kind of friendship where two separate individuals share are friends with the same person. Have you ever heard some say”(s) he is a friend of my friend. Lol.Something like that.
5. Good friendship:I refer to this friendship as real friendship. This is a kind of friendship where you dare to be yourself,it takes a long time to build and it’s based on mutual respect, trust and admiration.A good friend is a complete package. A good friend is your ally, acquaintance,supporter, pal,buddy. A good friend motivates you to be a better version of yourself. Good friends are rare to find. This kind of friendship is all other friendship combined.

A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out

Walter Winchel

You might have questions on your mind like how can I get a real friend ?Nice question because Cypher has just the best answer for you. Honestly life has taught me that the best way to get a real friend is to be one.

“To get a real friend is to be one”. Ever heard a saying”Do unto others what you would like them to do unto you”

Every love,trust,admiration, you want to receive should be first accorded to another.

How to be a good/real friend

To be a real friend, there are certain things that should always be on your mind and here’s a list for you:

1. Connection :There must be a connection with someone before you can achieve your aim of being a good friend.
2. Concern :You should be concerned about things that are important to your friend, about the growth and well being of your friend.
3. Communication :Communication is paramount in the goal of being a good friend.. Always communicate with your friends.
4. Commitment :Good friends are always committed to each other through bright and sunny days and dark nights.
5. Care: You need to care for your friend sincerely.

As a good friend,you should always have your friend’s back at all times by being a pleasurable friend, utility friend and probably every kind of friendship you can think of . Good friendship has a lot if benefits to our mental, social and emotional health. The kind of friends you make are the what your children will refer to as connections.

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